It is safe to say that most people count their family as the most important people in their lives. When anything is even slightly off with one of those relationships, life feels off balance. For instance, if my wife and I aren’t in sync, I feel like I can’t be the best dad for my kids or concentrate at work. She is the person that motivates me, keeps me accountable to what I say, and helps me be the best version of myself possible. She’s my best friend, and my true partner in everything that I do.
Simple but Focused Time
Our lives are filled by demanding careers, kids’ activities and events, and other commitments. The days fill fast. However, if my wife and I start and end our day together things just work better. It doesn’t have to be hours everyday. Just make the best of the time available. Intentional time in the morning and evening is a simple place to start. Flirt while getting ready in the morning. Hug and chat while coffee is brewing. There doesn’t need to be a huge exchange – just be purposely in each other’s presence. The morning time together gives the positive energy necessary to attack the day ahead.
Why not start the day with your top priority? I truly feel that if my relationship with my wife is dialed in, I can then be an amazing dad to my kids and conquer any task that is presented to me during the workday. As a man it is important to me that my wife knows how much I love and need her. I truly can take any day in stride because even on the worst day I know that my wife thinks that I am a great man.
Make the Most of Evening Time
At night, take time to discuss the day and what lies ahead. Try to cover more than just the following days schedule and what could be discussed over email. The only rule is no distractions – no phones or TV. This is a chance to review the day, things that excite us, or what got us down – nothing is off limits. Flush everything out so that the next day is new with no old baggage to carry.
The Relationship That Is a Catalyst for Everything Else
There is something truly special about a real connection with our spouse. When we’re happy in our marriage and feel supported by our spouse, it becomes a catalyst in other areas of life. It makes us want to be a better person, a better dad, a better colleague, a better son, a better friend, and more. It motivates us to strive for greatness in everything that we do. It gives us a greater purpose than just doing things for ourselves.
If you find that you’ve lost the connection with your spouse, think of ways to spark it again. Consider going back to the beginning and date them again. Remember how fun it used to be. Find a way to get back there again. Take a couple minutes in the morning and at night to be your authentic self and fall in love with them. It will be worth it!
Jake is a husband and dad of two. His experience through fulfilling a dream, only to realize there are bigger, more meaningful dreams, has been a humbling and motivating life lesson. He thrives on physical challenges, is an avid reader, is committed to a path toward full human potential, and strives to serve others. CF-L1 Trainer.